ARTEMIS ASKS: VIDA CARMEL
…about Neuro Linguistic Programming, powerful self-talk and what it takes to say ‘no’
Vida is a Neuro Linguistic Programming Master Practitioner.
We’re new to NLP - how would you describe your practice in a sentence?
Neuro Linguistic Programming is an outcome-focused model, based on how our minds (neuro) and communication (linguistic) interact with each other - by focusing on our patterns of behaviours and beliefs (programming) we can get different results.
How has the power of NLP amazed you in the past?
To witness people who have been through traumatic events drastically reframe their experience and belief in what is possible is amazing. To see someone's physiology and state entirely transform and to know that these people have been able to sustain this change and create positive outcomes for themselves for years since working together is just incredible.
What are some simple things that we can do today to start changing our own language and behaviours?
We are all free to create our own future, which is incredibly exciting because the possibilities are limitless. When you realise you have agency and the ability to choose how to respond to the world you will notice how different life can be. Next time you find yourself focusing your attention on anything negative, ask yourself, 'what do I want instead?' Keep going until you are able to state this using positive language. This way you will show yourself how to reframe your experience towards a positive outcome.
Find out more about Vida and her work here.
ARTEMIS ASKS: CHANTIE COX-GEORGE
…about sex robots, A&E and bringing your body to work as a woman
Chantie is a Junior Doctor-turned-Management Consultant.
Who is the most important female role model to you?
My mum has shown me what it means to be a committed and determined woman; to rise to every challenge. We have such different personalities but I wouldn’t be half the woman I am today without her grit and perseverance.
What’s the biggest challenge women face in bringing their bodies to work?
I think women are being more vocal than ever when we are treated differently at work purely because we are women; how we’re represented in media often seeps into everyone’s professional psyche, too. I think there’s still a lot of work to do because until we see women - and not just cis-gendered, able-bodied, middle-class, caucasian women - at the top of the organisations in which we work, we will continue to face many challenges in the workplace.
You were the first woman to conduct an academic investigation into sex robots… what’s so significant about the evolution of that market?
The industry is growing and is ethically contentious. In 2018, I wrote a paper for a medical journal which concluded that there are no proven therapeutic benefits to the ownership/use of sex robots - a great deal more research into ‘robotiquette’ (human-robot relationships) is necessary as we move further into the AI age.
What’s one change you’d like to see in the medical profession?
What unites us all in the medical profession is our commitment to putting the care of our patients first. I would like to see us work on how we practice kindness towards one another, reminding ourselves that although we are providers of care but also human beings who need, and deserve, our own dose of kindness, too.
Read Chantie’s article here.
ARTEMIS ASKS: jESS RUBEN
…about founding start-ups, failing in start-ups and building resilience
Jess is VP of Business Operations at Judopay.
Why is failure important?
Because your reaction to failure is what separates the good from the great!
What’s the biggest realisation you’ve had through your entrepreneurial failures, and successes?
That to be my best at work, I need to give less. Re-balancing life and work has made me more productive, more able to cope with challenges, and made me a better teammate and manager.
And how did you figure out what out what really motivates you?
I’m a big believer in allowing yourself time to process. Whenever I feel something strongly, be it happy or sad, I give myself the opportunity to reflect. Processing works best for me when I write, so I always have a pocket-size notebook for my reflections on the go. I also have a private blog on Wordpress where I’ve been writing for the last four years; even if I don’t realise it at the time, I look back through my notes and see themes that have helped me learn about myself.